It is amazing how hurtful words can be. Things my mother said only a few times can remain stuck in my memory, overshadowing the good times.
Words of healing have a more global impact and often are not remembered very well. Try these three experiments:
- When you want to say something corrective or negative about a person’s behavior, pause and look for something positive and uplifting. Say that instead. Your negative and positive observations are all true; focusing on the positive ones brings joy and healing.
- Use the Oreo feedback method. In love, point out something positive and show them you love them no matter what. Then the suggestion or correction to improve them or the situation. Finally, another positive comment. This way, it is clear that love is the foundation for the correction.
- Develop a habit of smiling and saying something positive to people who serve you or help you. The barista, the door person, people in the store you pass. It may seem awkward at first but with consistency, you will find that they are happy to see you and give you a compliment of a smile or kind words right back to you.
We often do not know how our words have impacted another person. Ensure that you are not leaving behind hurt by cultivating within yourself
- An abundance of appreciation,
- Compassionate acknowledgement of their suffering.
- Seeing the best in others and
- Celebrating their successes.
Kind and encouraging words are
powerful healers.
